The rabbi or priest you grew up with may not perform interfaith weddings - although this may be painful to accept, it is best not to take it personally. For example, the Conservative Assembly prohibits its rabbis from performing interfaith weddings - regardless of what the individual rabbi believes or wants.

Some Reform rabbis will officiate at interfaith weddings, while no Orthodox or Conservative rabbi will do so. ArtKetubah.com can put you in touch with a Rabbi in your area who is expressly committed to performing interfaith weddings. (contact us)

Even if your Rabbi performs interfaith weddings, you may decide to have a Minister or Priest as well. Having one officiant present from each of your faiths can ensure that both families feel represented in the wedding. Far from causing offence, many Rabbis and leaders of other religions enjoy the opportunity for interfaith dialog that co-officiating at a wedding brings them. (Of course, if you plan on engaging the services of two officiants, it is best to have this conversation at your first meeting.)

If it isn’t possible to find a religious leader to perform the ceremony, you can include a spiritual element in your wedding by having favorite religious texts or blessings read by family members (or the justice of the peace, if s/he is willing). Remember, it is the act of coming together in loving matrimony that is the most important, not necessarily who is joining you together.

When combining two religions into one interfaith wedding seems impossible, some couples choose to have two wedding ceremonies, one for each religion. This could mean having two separate wedding ceremonies on one day in the same location, or having them on different days in different locations. The latter option is particularly popular with international couples, whose guests won’t be able to travel across the world to attend their wedding.